It’s About How You Say It..

I’ve been wanting to share with you something I read ten days ago. Somehow life has been getting in my way. I have recognized, however, in that life, there have been signs pushing me back to the topic at hand. The topic words, what we say, and how we say it. What I read began with a bible verse and then was expanded upon by another writer. I couldn’t agree more so I wanted to do my own expansion. The verse is this “For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.” ~ Matthew 12:34

It saddens me that we continue to go back towards censorship, instead of heading towards the root of the problem; the heart. I believe in the freedom of speech, that everybody’s truth should be heard. Whether it be by just one who can change the life of the speaker, or whether it be by many. The problem is all too often we let our wounds and our hurt, lead us to anger. Then there becomes a need to blow this anger out, and this is what becomes the platform we use to speak. I have said multiple times recently, that the only two things I can truly control on this planet are my action and my reaction. My journey is teaching me how to feel the hurt my heart feels, to stand strong in its truth, and not react in anger. For when my heart feels such anger and hatred, nothing good comes out of my mouth. It is my desire, maybe not yours, to live a life not having others feel what I feel sometimes, or if they feel it, feel it in a gentler way.

With that said, when I say life has been giving me signs to expand on this topic, the first was the very next day. I am fortunate that my daily life floats complete strangers in and out of it. I ended up in a conversation with a complete stranger about many things, but among them were paying for his children’s education. I felt compelled to share with him my life experiences when it came to that, and further thoughts on the topic. What came out of his mouth next, the first sign bringing me back here. His exact words to me “I really do not want to leave. I could talk to you all day. I will be back just to talk to you. Because sometimes we really do not want to hear what is being said, but when it is said in a nicer way, we are more open to hearing it.” My response, besides letting him know I was meant to hear him say that, was to tell him about what I read and my desire to write about it. I knew that, if for no one else but myself, my mouth, or in this case hands, had to speak what my heart was full of.

What is my heart full of?? A desire to help heal. But, I cannot do this if I react in anger to anger, or react in hate to hate. I can only do this if I take the hurt and feel it, and then truly hear what is said, digest what is said, try to understand why it is said in that way, and then respond from a better place in my heart, a more vulnerable place in my heart. When I do this, although I am saying the same thing, although someone may not want to hear it, they are more open to listening and hearing. And guess what, so aren’t I.

If this post does nothing else, I hope it makes you think about what your heart feels. I hope it further makes you stop and think, that what you say is coming out in a tone according to what is in your heart. I personally prefer to raise others as I raise, not destroy what has attempted to destroy me. We all need to heal, and this can only occur with love, not more hate. Whether you agree or not, we want to get to know you, to know what you think. To learn from you and hopefully have you learn from us. So when you are ready to join in, please do. Healing will truly only come when we have a desire to get to know each other. Until then, thanks for coming to hear or read what I have to say. From my heart to yours – love and light – may they be what is in your heart.

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